Author Archives: kshobbs

About kshobbs

Karin has mediated over 3,600 disputes in her 14 years as a full on professional mediator.

Negotiation Tips for the Holidays

The holidays are a series of negotiations.  Where do we spend the holiday?  Who will join us? Whose family recipe will be used for dinner? Most importantly, who will be present?  Will my feelings be hurt?  Will I hurt feelings? … Continue reading

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Boastful Daughter Breaches Confidentiality: Father Forfeits $80,000

Seems innocent enough.  Father tells college age daughter he settled his age discrimination case against his former employer.  Daughter posts on Facebook (to her 1,200 friends), “Mama and Papa Snay won the case against Gulliver. Gulliver is now officially paying … Continue reading

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The “Ikea Effect” is Mediation

They are calling it a new psychological phenomenon, “the Ikea Effect.”  Three professors who have studied this phenomenon have found that people attach more value to things they build themselves, even if those things are imperfect, like a somewhat wobbly … Continue reading

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Cultural Conflict and Forgiveness on Mount Everest

Climbers and Sherpas had an intense and violent conflict recently on Mount Everest.  Like most conflicts, the presentation of the conflict, did not reflect each side’s feelings and needs.  It’s an amazing story of recognizing cultural differences and resolving conflict … Continue reading

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Cooking Up Settlement: “The Martha” and Macy’s Go to Mediation

Will Martha Stewart be able to make lemonade from lemons in her recent legal battle?  Will she cook up creative ways to recycle her lawsuit into an elegant business solution?  Like explaining how to remove garlic peels with ease during … Continue reading

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Weapons and Mediation

Tragic and scary news story today about an attorney who was shot at a mediation in Phoenix. According to the media, the mediation was ending when the client went to his car to get something.  After a lengthy wait, the mediation … Continue reading

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Hostess Twinkies Go To Mediation — Or Not?

At the bankruptcy court’s urging, Hostess and the Baker’s Union agreed to mediation to avoid the liquidation of Hostess and the loss of an estimated 18,000 jobs.  But is it really a mediation? The judge hearing the case, Judge Robert … Continue reading

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How to Engage the Brain

How do you engage the brain to improve your work, your life, your teaching and your daily negotiations? First, our brains do not like boring things. After about 10 minutes, we check out. More importantly, emotional arousal helps the brain … Continue reading

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The “Secret Sauce” of Grief Counseling and Mediation: A Different Eye

I recently attended a session entitled “What Mediators Can Learn from the Brain Science of Grief Counseling” at the Northwest Dispute Resolution Conference in Seattle. I was interested that the lecturer, Professor John Medina, a molecular biologist fed up with current … Continue reading

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From Casinos to Universities: Teaching Negotiation and Mediation

So, I am honored to have been invited to teach at Pepperdine University’s Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution in May 2012, and in January 2013.  How did this happen? I’ve been teaching mediation advocacy and negotiation for years, mostly to … Continue reading

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